1) TRUST You have to trust in a marriage. And when I say this, I mean having assurance and confidence in one’s intentions. Trust in your partner is believing that they want the best for the relationship and that they are giving every effort to make it work. Trust is really essential in building the […]
So- we all say the phrase “I need you to…” at some point in our relationship. But what does that really mean? How does it make your partner feel? Well if you haven’t noticed, they usually get defensive. And I say defensive because it typically implies they haven’t done enough of whatever it is you […]
For those of us who tell too much- You have probably been guilty of seeking advice when there were problems in your relationship. Not that getting advice is wrong, it’s just that everyone’s advice isn’t good advice. You want a listening ear- like someone who will empathize with you – but it’s more like someone […]
Can trust be restored? Will you ever be able to trust them again? Was their betrayal so painful that you will never trust them again or is this something that is painful yet bearable- as in we can work through this. Can you forgive? Forgiving doesn’t mean you submit or agree. It just means that […]
DESIRE- Your partner needs to feel attractive and admired by you. They need to feel needed- like they are an essential part of your life. You’ve got to show affection toward them- kisses on the forehead, back rubs, holding hands- these little things matter. Fulfill them in every way- create intimacy, connection, opportunities to show, […]
Answer these questions: Do you notice their strengths or do you focus on their weaknesses? Do you focus on their potential or only on their flaws? You see, your partner can’t grow if you’re holding them down. If you’re only focused on the wrongs and not the rights- you could be hurting your relationship. Your […]
You see, “I love you” requires demonstration. It requires evidence. It requires substantiation. “I love you” should not be used lightly because it also implies the desire to please and express appreciation. When your love is not experienced by your spouse, you have missed an opportunity to bring fulfillment. You have broken the healthy cycle […]
Pick your battles. It’s really important to weigh the consequences of an argument. Every little issue is not worth fighting about. Some things should be tabled for another day and others should be fully addressed in the moment. You have to weigh the costs and benefits of addressing each situation. Is it worth sleeping on […]
When dating, we always present our “best self.” We want to impress and entice. We pursue our potential partner with fervor and want to do everything right to make them happy. However, for some, once you’ve got them, you let down your guard a little. You start to show who you really are because you […]
It’s important to realize that relationships have different levels. Each level of your relationship will bring bigger challenges and more complex skills are needed to overcome these obstacles. Getting to the next level can sometimes be pretty tough. So RESET can put you back at the beginning of the same level of your relationship. It’s […]
