Anger: Strategies for Constructive Communication
Anger: Strategies for Constructive Communication Anger is a natural emotion, and in the context of a relationship, it can serve as a powerful catalyst for positive change when managed and communicated constructively. Rather than fearing or suppressing anger, you can explore strategies for harnessing its energy in a way that promotes understanding and growth. It’s […]
Resolving Conflicts with Compassion
Conflicts are an inevitable part of any relationship (you are going to have big arguments occasionally), but it’s how we navigate and resolve them that defines the health and strength of our connections. Instead of viewing conflicts as obstacles, consider them as opportunities for growth and understanding. Resolving conflicts with compassion involves a mindful and […]
Are You A Peace-maker or a Peace-breaker?
Are You A Peace-maker or a Peace-breaker? Most couples don’t know how to fight fair. They just want to be heard and really don’t care about what their partner has to say. Disagreements shouldn’t become full blown arguments with tempers flaring the voices yelling across the room. There is a way to be a peacemaker […]
Are You Growing Apart?
Over time, couples may find themselves growing apart. They become unhappy, but they’re not quite sure when it began. The ebb and flow is sometimes hard to navigate. That’s why it’s important to always pay attention to your partner- changes in their behavior or response toward you like shutting down, spending more time away, etc. […]
Why Saying ‘I Need You To…’ Can Hurt Your Relationship
So- we all say the phrase “I need you to…” at some point in our relationship. But what does that really mean? How does it make your partner feel? Well if you haven’t noticed, they usually get defensive. And I say defensive because it typically implies they haven’t done enough of whatever it is you […]
Repairing a Broken Relationship
Can trust be restored? Will you ever be able to trust them again? Was their betrayal so painful that you will never trust them again or is this something that is painful yet bearable- as in we can work through this. Can you forgive? Forgiving doesn’t mean you submit or agree. It just means that […]
Is This Really Worth Arguing About?
Pick your battles. It’s really important to weigh the consequences of an argument. Every little issue is not worth fighting about. Some things should be tabled for another day and others should be fully addressed in the moment. You have to weigh the costs and benefits of addressing each situation. Is it worth sleeping on […]
A Little Space Please?
So why is giving space important in a relationship? Think back- early in your relationship you were probably stuck to each other. I can remember calling just to hear his voice. Not talking about anything. Basically listening to him breathe. You say: “What are you doing?” He says: “Nothing, what are you doing?” You Say: […]